top of page
  • רינה להב

the island of wishes

Imagine yourself in the peaceful beauty of a lush green island decorated with colorful butterflies, nestled in the middle of a calm sea.

Here, in this picturesque setting, imagine your ideal life free from the responsibilities towards parents, children and spouses.

Define fulfillment against a backdrop of flapping wings and soothing waves.

Align with your authentic self in this ideal oasis, set clear goals and embark on a journey of self-discovery.

Let the peaceful surroundings of this magical island inspire you to uncover your deepest desires and create a life that reflects your true aspirations.

In my early twenties, I experienced the excitement of my first relationship, followed by marriage at the age of 27. However, my path was not without challenges - fertility treatments, betrayals and the loss of a father stood my ground. When I was 31, I found myself divorced with a three-month-old daughter, navigating the aftermath of a difficult chapter in my life.

Over the next decade, I put my energy into raising my daughter and advancing my career.

The sudden stop brought about by the outbreak of the corona virus allowed me a rare opportunity to stop and reflect. At the age of 45 I had a deep understanding - years of survival mode and moving from crisis to crisis left me disconnected from my desires and identity. An identity I never knew.

Determined to embark on a journey of self-discovery, I began to unravel the layers of my past. Instead of judging myself for my choices, I chose to understand them with compassion. From my experiences, I found purpose in guiding others as a sexologist and couples therapist.

Through introspection, I learned the importance of living consciously and authentically. When I asked myself difficult questions, I began to establish boundaries and values ​​that would shape my future. I was no longer content with just existing, I aspired to thrive and lead a life rooted in self-awareness and self-love.

With each step forward, I embraced the opportunity to create a life that resonated with my deepest desires.

The war and the events of 7/10 marked a significant turning point in my life. I find it hard to express the impact, but I feel a compelling urge to be true to myself, connect with my desires and persevere without losing sight of my needs. It is like a continuous voice that guides me to focus on self-discovery, to create a space for introspection and to notice what really brings me peace and fulfillment, independent of external influences.

By embracing this inner clarity, I can initiate real conversations with the world, fulfill my responsibilities, and navigate my roles as a daughter and parent authentically. It is a journey of understanding that I must undertake to find my place in the universe and live in harmony with my true self.

Discovering one's deepest desires is a personal journey and through observation that can lead to awareness and deep self-fulfillment. Here are some extended ideas on how a person can explore and uncover their desires:

Conscious reflection: Set aside dedicated time for introspection and self-reflection. Consider your past experiences, achievements and happy moments. Think about what activities, relationships, or pursuits have brought you the most satisfaction and fulfillment.

Clarify your values: Identify and prioritize your core values. What principles and beliefs are most important to you? Understanding your values ​​can provide clarity about what is truly important in life and guide you toward decisions that align with your authentic self.

Follow your curiosity: Pay attention to things that spark your curiosity and ignite a sense of passion within you. Whether it's a particular subject, hobby or goal, exploring what fascinates you can reveal hidden desires and interests.

Face your fears: Often, our deepest desires are intertwined with our fears and insecurities. Facing and addressing these fears can unlock repressed desires and ambitions that doubt or uncertainty have overtaken.

Look for new experiences: get out of your comfort zone and expose yourself to new experiences and challenges. Travel to unfamiliar places, try new activities or connect with diverse communities. Embracing the unknown can open doors to unexplored desires and passions.

Listen to your intuition: pay attention to your gut feelings and inner voice. Your intuition can provide valuable insights into what really resonates with you on a deeper level. Trusting your intuition can lead you to choices that align with your authentic desires.

Experiment and learn: Treat life as a constant experiment. Be open to trying new things, taking risks and learning from both successes and failures. Each experience can offer valuable lessons and help you refine your understanding of your true desires.

In May I celebrated my birthday, I am 48 years old, it seems to me that for the first time in my life I am beginning to know myself...

7 views0 comments


bottom of page